53 QUESTION: Is there any possible connection between excessive self-love and homosexuality?

ANSWER: There may be. It cannot be generalized. Homosexuality has so many different origins. To say that homosexuality comes from this or that is very shortsighted. Spiritually speaking, as far as the law of karma is concerned, the possibilities are as varied and manifold as the psychological factors. The spiritual factors never contradict the psychological ones. They are only an extension.

The difference lies in that you cannot so easily find the karmic origin, while you can always find the psychological roots and origins in this life. This, incidentally, applies to everything, not merely homosexuality. Cause and effect in this life regarding homosexuality, present possibilities that are manifold. One of the possibilities can be an excessive form of self-love. Other factors also enter.

Another reason for homosexuality may be an excessive fear of women in a man, or of men in a woman. Still another reason or possibility may be exactly the opposite. In other words, if a boy loves his mother very much, and despises and fears his father, this too may cause homosexuality, because he wants to emulate and imitate his mother. He wants to identify with her.

While in another personality, with different characteristics, the exact opposite may lead to homosexuality. Then it is a fear and hatred of the mother, or female mother-substitutes, rather than love for her and identification with her. So no generalization can be made here either. To generalize is always dangerous. Of course, one should also keep in mind that no single factor can account for it. Various reasons may prevail. The most seemingly contradictory factors may all play a role simultaneously.

Excessive self-love leading to homosexuality, or at least being partly responsible for it, would work this way: identification with the beloved self is substituted by another human being, because the unquenchable desire of the soul to find the bridge to the other self cannot entirely be eradicated, no matter how sick the psyche may be in other ways. Thus, these two currents work together, expressing themselves in choosing a partner of the same sex.

QUESTION: The higher self has a desire for femininity, the state of being. Couldn’t that also be the reason? I mean the misunderstood current of this longing?

ANSWER: You mean in male homosexuality? {Yes} Yes, it could enter into it. But then how would you interpret female homosexuality?

QUESTION: May it be just the opposite?

ANSWER: Yes, because you see, the higher self is male and female, or contains masculine and feminine currents and traits. Of course, this enters into it, but it is not an additional factor, but rather an explanation of the deviations.

The misinterpretation of these soul-forces causes emotions to deviate. We know that is so in every other respect as well. Such a misinterpretation is caused by psychological twists. In other words, if a man rejects decision-making activity and everything that is part of the active life, the feminine side of his nature grows disproportionately.

On the other hand, if a woman fears the passive and receptive state that, in a healthy way, is part of her nature, she becomes overactive. Such overactivity, above a certain degree, may result in homosexuality. As I have said, usually many factors play a role, not just one, so that all must be taken into consideration.

You also have to distinguish one other factor, and that is the degree of homosexual leaning which too is determined by many elements. If the degree is comparatively small, it may be heightened by guilt and suppression. But by facing it, it will be reduced.

In that way, one is opened up for further search to understand the various factors. If the degree is karmically stronger, then the inner desire to change may be lacking. Every case is different. I can show you only the broad outlines, the many possibilities. How dangerous it is to say homosexuality comes from this or that, making one statement to cover all cases! That does not exist.

QUESTION: What about people who are bisexual?

ANSWER: Again the reasons are manifold. The same origins may prevail as for homosexuality, but weakened by the healthy opposite force, which may be stronger. Another reason may be that the personality is so cramped, so unfree, that he or she cannot let go enough to give himself completely.

Therefore, a flatness of feeling will set in after the first period of newness and excitement has passed. If this happens continuously, and new partners of the opposite sex do not bring the desired release and fulfillment, then for the sake of something entirely different, a partner of the same sex is sought, just as other forms of perversity are sought for the same reason.

Here again we have a case of seeking the wrong remedy. For such artificial means, sought in ignorance, will eventually cause a complete stalemate of fulfillment. No matter how different, it will cease to be a stimulation. The remedy is in finding the inner fear of letting go, of giving oneself, of revealing the self and seeking the other self.

This always seems to entail a risk: the risk of living and loving. To the measure that this risk is avoided, sexual flatness may set in. This may then cause acting out of so-called perversions of all sorts. Or in a different type of character, it may be turned into a virtue under various religious or spiritual masks, and into the denial of all sexual experience.

QUESTION: Homosexuality seems to be gaining wider exposure, understanding, and acceptance. Would you consider it good that it is brought into the open? Wouldn’t this make it easier for some to fall into the practice?

ANSWER: Yes, that is very true. On the other hand, suppression is bad, and moral self-righteous judgement of another person’s issues is wrong. Yet the other extreme is always so close at hand that it is difficult to find the correct balance. Today’s trend does have its drawbacks. It causes many young people to make a virtue out of something that should be looked into.

If a young person looks up to and is influenced by someone who happens to be a homosexual, due to various psychological factors in his inner and outer life, and he is through such a person drawn into an environment where the mass image exists that it is better, and even quite smart to be homosexual, he will find it much more difficult to desire a change and a cure of his sick psyche.

Homosexuality, by the way, is also one of the many forms of rebellion against authority. It is also quite true that if a person has no homosexual leaning at all, he will not be influenced by it. But the point is that under existing conditions, a comparatively small inclination will not be considered an issue. It will be strengthened and justified only by gradually growing mass images – in certain groups – regarding this particular subject.

There are comparatively few human beings in whom at least a small degree of homosexual leaning did not exist during the process of maturing. Outer influences may encourage the inclination unnecessarily, while the personality may otherwise grow out of it. This is the negative side of the issue. Many extremes have to be experienced before the healthy middle road is found. This applies to any issue. We have the same problem in educating the young.

QUESTION: I read recently that the spirit or the soul must be both male and female to be complete. So for four or five incarnations one might be male and then one might be female for four or five incarnations. Consequently one might be a homosexual in the first changeover. Is that possible?

ANSWER: It can, but does not have to be that way. Besides, we cannot say four or five. This may apply in some cases. In other cases it is not so. Again, generalizations may lead to error. You see, the original spiritual entity is one being, consisting of male and female qualities. Only after the fall did the split occur.

The split does not always happen evenly, so that one part of the entity has all the male qualities and the other part all the female ones. Since the fall was the product of chaos, the split in the individual entities was also a chaotic one; that is, it occurred at random, according to the attitude and emotions governing the entity when it fell.

Thus, in some beings, the split is much more uneven, combining male and female qualities in both halves. In other instances the split happened more closely to a male/female division, although never exactly, of course.

According to the evenness or unevenness of the split, the incarnations change from one sex to another. If one part of the split entity is more predominantly male or female, the other part will correspond to it and changes of sex occur less often in the cycle of incarnations. In cases where the change has to occur more often, due to a greater unevenness in the split, homosexuality can result the first time one is born into the opposite sex of the previous incarnation. But this does not alter the psychological factors in the least.

In fact, all incarnations exist so that you become more healthy and whole. If an entity does not eliminate the wrong psychological factors, he or she may again go through a life where it will be even more difficult to overcome homosexuality. So the roots always have to be found, no matter what the truth of the karmic law is. One never excludes another.


QA130 QUESTION: A young nephew of mine has come to me for help, and I don’t know what to do about him. He was a practicing homosexual and then he got married. Now he’s afraid that this thing will break up his marriage. He’s asked me to advise and help him about this and I don’t know enough about the subject. I wonder if you could help me in any way, so that I could give him some help about this. I don’t know what causes it. He wonders if there’s any cure for it. He’s in a complete state of confusion, and I am too, because I don’t know very much about it.

ANSWER: Now, let me answer one thing at a time. What causes this, one can certainly not generalize, for whatever the condition is in a person’s life, it is never just one reason. It is a conglomeration of a number of factors.

Whether there is a cure for this – of course. There is a cure for everything to the degree it is desired and followed through. As to this specific confusion, I have this to say. If one wishes to come out of such a confusion by forceful outer means, then, of course, such a thing may happen – that one tries through the idea “by marriage I may get over it,” which, of course, is an error.

One cannot get over any psychological condition by forcing oneself into an outer act. It needs a lot more understanding before the emotions can change. The effect is then, of course, doubly painful, because it is a disappointment. One has perhaps believed this is possible, one has succeeded to a certain extent. Then when this fallacy manifests that no condition of such nature can be simply eliminated by forcing oneself outwardly, then one feels doubly let down.

Now, the only thing I can advise in any psychological condition, whether it be this or anything else, is a path – any kind of path – that leads toward self-understanding, and on the way, acceptance, as I have said at other occasions. Acceptance does not mean, “I wish to stay that way all my life.” It means, “This is the way I am now; I wish to grow out of it, but I am not bad or impossible or hopeless – or my life or my happiness is hopeless – because I am at this state now,” whether this state is homosexuality or anything else.

Accepting one’s present human limitations is a prerequisite toward changing these self-same limitations. This, of course, can only be learned with help on such a path and the understanding of what brought the condition about. In doing so – learning this self-acceptance – gradually the feelings will change as the inner misconceptions vanish.

In any disharmonious situation – and I have said that many times in many other connections and I will say it again – a misconception must exist. In homosexuality too a misconception must exist. Any misconception that is held onto within the soul – any misconception – must breed fear, guilt, and other destructive feelings – hostility and so on and so forth.

It is a question of finding what the specific misconception is. It may be now completely unconscious and only be determined by the reactions that have to be analyzed. Not being able to function – or fear of not being able to function – either physically or emotionally in emotional response with the opposite sex, leads to a misconception. Not only of the opposite sex, but also of one’s own sex, one’s own sexual role.

These misconceptions have to be brought forward and clearly understood before one even issues the desire, “I will change” or “I will not change.” Then one can make up one’s mind. And then a change is possible after the self-acceptance.

QUESTION: I don’t know where to tell him to turn for advice. I can tell him what you told me. He’s not entirely convinced that homosexuality could not be a better path, shall we say. I have tried to persuade him that this isn’t true, that it’s based on some kind of fear of some kind, some hostility or some kind of negativity. Therefore, it has to be a wrong path.

ANSWER: Well, let us not put the word “wrong” on it. Let us use perhaps the words “less satisfying and fulfilling in the long run,” from the point of view of relationships, of closeness with another person where the complementation is so necessary.

Now, of course, there are in a case such as you describe – and of course, it always is wherever there is conflict – conflicting wishes. If this person would not also feel something of what I just said, in a vague way at least, the attempt would not have been made to marry and to shed this way of life, nor would there be any problem about it.

This is not only because of society. It is not true. Such a statement is a self-deception and an escape, for it is absolutely possible for many people of such orientation to be perfectly without any problems with their society. They live in their own society, and others do not necessarily conflict with their way of life. To claim the only reason for unhappiness is that society looks down is not quite truthful.

There are other inner reasons, that the psyche vaguely perceives, and that are not entirely a question of a society conscience. But it is somehow felt that there is a wider way of experience, of self-expression, that brings greater fulfillment and meaning to oneself and the other person. It is not just a deviation from the norm and its rules, that this creates a conflict and instills the desire for change.

So there must be this side, as there is the other side that says, “Well, maybe I wish to remain this way.” And where there is conflict, there is always the greatest disharmony. So there are these two sides, and they both have to be acknowledged and faced before the conflict can cease.

What you say about the person being somewhere else, all I can say is, if he is truly ready to receive help and expresses this desire toward himself, guidance will come, wherever he is, to bring him to such an outlet where he can receive help.

QUESTION: If a person is a hundred percent homosexual, and he becomes heterosexual, it’s an advance?

ANSWER: In the first place, there is already an error in your statement “one hundred percent.” There is no such a thing.

QUESTION: I mean if he never had sex with a woman.

ANSWER: Oh, I see, in that sense. Is it an advance? {Yes} Well, if it is a true feeling, of course. If it is not a forceful, obligatory, disciplinary action but a real development, how could it not be? Certainly. Any problem you dissolve, any conflict you shed, is an advance in the sense of greater spiritual unfoldment and happiness and freedom and pleasure. Yes, the pleasure principle itself is negatively influenced by any conflict that exists in the human soul.


QA188 QUESTION: I would be very glad if you could comment on homosexuality from your point of view.

ANSWER: Yes. It is almost impossible to discuss the many, many possibilities and causes that must converge together in order to create this issue. Any issue that is really a problem must have several causes, several conditions, that converge together. One or two would never be enough to create a serious impediment in a person’s life. The issue of homosexuality can be discussed on various levels, and I can only give examples in a very rough way. The combination of how they exist in a person’s life has to be explored with each person separately.

One such aspect would be that the soul is in a state of flux and has not really found his or her own identity. So when the soul is born, this can manifest. It does not have to manifest, but it can manifest – provided other reasons also exist – in a person who will be attracted to someone else of the same sex. It is a confusion about one’s identity as male or female.

For example, if a male spirit rejects his self-dependency, his independence, his aggressive role, the need to take initiative, to be responsible for himself, if he wants to cling and be dependent – which may, of course, exist to some degree in perfectly heterosexual men – and if this aspect is coupled with other factors, then male homosexuality may come about.

Conversely, if a female spirit is competitive with a man and cannot accept the receptive attitude, the surrendering attitude, the healthy passive attitude in the sexual role, and if a self-disgust exists at the same time – in both male or female spirits – then female homosexuality may come about.

Further aspects contributing to this basic condition may be that one wants to revenge oneself with the opposite sex: the hatred for the opposite sex is so great that one completely rejects it. But, by the same token, it is equally possible that homosexuality may be a result of the hatred for the same sex, which may then come about in an inverted way by finding sexual contact which contains a great deal of hidden hatred, hidden hostility, hidden rejection – like, for example, the desire to humiliate the person by the sexual contact, by then withdrawing any kind of positive feelings and leaving that person. So it may just as well be true that the hatred for the same sex may be even greater in a homosexual condition.

Still another reason may be that finding self-identity can only, at this stage, be attained through another person. In other words, the soul or the entity cannot truly identify with himself yet, but he can do it indirectly, via a person of the same sex. Now, these are very basic conditions and many subvariations may exist. They have to be worked out painstakingly. And, I might say, it is very rare that only one or two of these exist when homosexuality exists. This is my answer. Is that clear?

QUESTION: Yes. I also wanted to ask if ideas can be propagated so you think that this is healthy.

ANSWER: Truthful answers can very rarely be made by saying something is healthy or not healthy. It is certainly healthier that a person can express wherever he finds himself fixated now, without the onus of being made to feel he is a criminal or with the terribly destructive guilt feelings. This kind of self-acceptance, as you know, must be attained for every issue if it is to be resolved.

This self-hating attitude, this feeling, “I am an outcast because of whatever my issue may be,” must be eliminated. This may, of course, then deteriorate into an opposite extreme, into a kind of caricature, in which something is lauded and applauded as not being a problem when it really is. This is the way the pendulum goes in every other respect on this Earth plane, constantly; and the difficulty of the human soul is to find the right balance.

It is exactly the same, for example, when we deal with this infinitely, Earth-world-encompassing problem of evil, which I discuss so much in my lectures to you, my friend. For many, many centuries, evil has been completely denied and the human being was made to feel a criminal because he had evil impulses. He was forced to completely deny and hide them, which was to his detriment.

On the other hand, the other extreme is just as detrimental, when it is applauded and falsely said, “Well now I am healthy, because I act out my hatred.” These are the balances that constitute man’s greatest struggle. He always wants a flat and all-around answer “this is right and this is wrong.” And there is no such answer. Always the right way has to be found, for each thing can be right or wrong according to the attitude and the flavor and the orientation of the person.

QUESTION: In your answer, you don’t mention anything about karma.

ANSWER: Well, this is self-understood. What does karma mean, if a person does not work out his problem? He has to work it out at this time. Karma is merely that. It is merely a label, and many times such labels are being used and it is very harmful. Because then people do not understand what they’re really talking about or what it means when they say such words. So I try to beware of labels.


QA207 QUESTION: You recently spoke about violence being hooked into sexuality, and I have begun to connect with these feelings of violence, especially in my pelvis. But when I worked on this with my Helper, instead of being connected with the man, it seems to be connected with my mother, from nursing. Way back before I could remember – like in a rage. I was advised to try and get into my homosexual fantasies, and since that time I have a real block. I just don’t want to do it. First of all, I don’t even want to believe that I would have any. And if I would have, then I would be very upset. So could you please help me out?

ANSWER: Yes. My answer to you is, in the first place, you make life so terribly difficult for yourself by putting these labels on. These labels will have specific connotation for which you even put a certain moralizing quality that stamps you as something, and you’ve given it a finality, and so you block your way.

You would have to, my dear, learn that things are not that pat and there are many open possibilities and things are not just that label. Try to abstain from thinking of such labels and rather perhaps thinking in terms like the following. The baby has all its vitality and energy and pleasure currents, and then these longings and pleasure currents are stopped.

The first person who presents these longings and gives the pleasure is the mother for all beings, whether they are male or female creatures. Then this blockage creates an inner wall where frustration and anger hit against that wall. The only way you can dissolve the wall is to go back where it is – but abstain from the label you choose to put on it.

Just think about it in dynamic terms that are archetypical for mankind. Make yourself a baby again. A baby does not know anything about homosexuality or heterosexuality. These are concepts of the mind. The baby only feels a longing that the soft touch of the first person who has nurtured and carried it continue in some way. That is all the baby knows.

Get back into this knowing, into this feeling, into the rage because these feelings were not coming forth sufficiently. And abstain from labels that you are now marked as a certain something, which is not true. Because, as a matter of fact, to the degree you are free from the forcing current in yourself – that you must be one thing and you must not be another thing which closes all the doors around you – to the degree you give yourself that freedom with a little bit of trust in the universal forces within yourself, you will see certain things as an infant feels for the mother.

And although you are now an adult, that infant still lives in you. You may temporarily feel it in terms of adult, but it is still the infantile feeling, the infantile longing and there is nothing wrong in that. As you trustfully go with the flow, I can assure you, you will be more heterosexual and more whole and more of a woman than you could ever be if you deny any part of yourself.

For denying what is in you creates denial of life towards you. So it must be the wholehearted commitment to whatever is in you, the courage and the trust that whatever is in you need not be a permanent handicap and will not be if you approach it that way. But it remains, indeed, a permanent handicap if you say No to any part of yourself, for whatever reason.

Your fear is unjustified, and your walls have to dissolve, if you truly want to be free and touched, if you allow yourself to hit out against your mother, in combination with those feelings of excitement and longing, and let it carry you without your mind limiting the process according to the very limited ideas of the mind. They have no application to the reality. That is my answer.


QA222 QUESTION: I find myself in a new territory, but yet have a lot of old unfinished business. I have a lot of anger and resistance in where I am. In terms of moving out toward a man, I don’t want to do that, and there’s a strong inclination to want to be with a woman. I feel that’s also connected in my moving out for a job and still wanting to hold on to wanting to “get it” somehow. And I wonder whether you could help me focus on this?

ANSWER: As long as you move out toward a man because that is expected of you from outside, you will feel it necessary to be rebellious. And that is, of course, totally a misunderstanding. Although you may pay lip service to the fact that you know this somewhere outside in your mind, emotionally you do not know it.

Emotionally, you react as though an authority would make demands on you. It is very important for you to know that you are a free agent. You have a perfect right to choose whatever you want. But at the same time, it is also important that you work through and see the consequences, the price you pay for keeping your heart closed and your mind prejudiced against half of the human race. And that is what you are really doing.

You are nurturing an old case, and you are not yet willing to give up that case, because it is an unknown new territory. You do not wish to experience new feelings, new conditions, new experiences. You indoctrinate yourself with the idea that they must be bad, they must be dangerous. And that is what really keeps you in an inwardly very tight position.

The question is not that you should feel guilty and contrite. The question is what it means in terms of your relationship to your own higher self, which you do not trust and which you do not want to listen to and do not want to open yourself toward.

The strength of your self-will is also a part of this whole attitude, the whole problem here – that you have an overconfidence and unjustified faith in the self-will of the ego, and you’re willing to do almost anything to reinforce that. At the same time, you have an equally unrealistic and unjustified lack of faith in your higher self.

That imbalance causes an outer imbalance in your life that really gives you a lot of pain, only you manage not to know that your pain and unfulfillment comes from that.


QA250 QUESTION: Is there a possibility that a homosexual relationship can be as healthy as a heterosexual one?

ANSWER: This touches, of course, on a very controversial question in your age and in your society. For a long time in human history, the homosexual was persecuted and maligned. He was accused of being a criminal because of his homosexual leanings. The countermovement had to come in order to move mankind away from this attitude of moralizing self-righteousness.

Those who have been treated in this unfair and painful way were not helped to work on their issue and had to become defiant and rebellious. In the process of this reaction, often common sense went by the wayside.

There exists such a sensitivity now in this respect that every reference to homosexuality indeed being an inner problem, or a manifestation of one, immediately creates more defiance as well as discouragement, especially for those who feel themselves far away from being able to resolve this issue.

The fact that even biblical Scripture has been misused for the purpose of instilling debilitating guilt into people who happen to be homosexual, does not make it easier to approach this issue.

So I want to say, first of all, that all moralizing and sense of sinning must be eliminated from your consciousness in order to help your soul along the road it needs to travel. You also need to understand that all human beings enter this Earth with unresolved soul problems and that it needs many incarnations to resolve them. It is no different with homosexuality.

When you see a person turn to heterosexuality in a genuine, organic way, following true evolvement, this is the last stage of this particular aspect of development. Those who do not and cannot change in this lifetime may have more work to do along these lines. This work is often so subtle and requires so many different approaches that it is impossible to adjudge superficially and rashly.

It may also require different incarnations with totally different circumstances, as far as sex is concerned. This is no different from any other incompleteness in the human soul. This does not mean that such a person needs to abandon all fulfillment and all happiness. If this were true, no human being could ever experience any kind or any degree or any measure of fulfillment.

It means accepting that you, as all human beings, are incomplete; are here to learn and grow; need to make the very best you can with what you have and with who you are now, without self-judgement, self-rejection, resentments, defiance and self-deprivation.

So you should not abdicate all contact and physical experience you are now capable of having because of a false sense of sin and because of distorted religious principles. The fulfillment and pleasure you can have is actually often most necessary in order to grow out of the very conflicts that cause homosexuality.

But beware of the equally distorted defiant attitude that claims that homosexuality is just as natural as heterosexuality. You do not need to replace one distortion with another. Nor do you need to feel self-conscious and insulted when homosexuality is said to be a soul problem. You do not need to feel isolated, different or hopeless because of it, and therefore you can do away with all kinds of defensive exaggerations.

Now, let us consider for a moment why homosexuality is a spiritual and a soul problem. When you look into the universe and into all Creation, it cannot escape you that there can be no creation of anything without the male and female principles coming together. No tree could come about, no planet could come into existence, no living organism, surely.

It is no different with great ideas, new inventions, anything of value. Enduring reality and beauty are always a combination of these two divine aspects. The union between a man and a woman reaches far beyond procreation. It is divinely ordained. There is a merging possible on all levels of being that can never exist between two people of the same sex.

This is an inexorable law that can perhaps be best compared with the fact that a key can never be put into another key, but only into a keyhole. This may sound crude, but it is not. It demonstrates a law that pertains even to mechanical creation. You need to meditate about this because it is a fact of life, and understanding this will open many a door for you within.

It will remove this sense of sin and shame that makes you lean to an opposite stance – that of defiance and unreasonableness, namely to claim that homosexuality is the same as heterosexuality. The fact that few heterosexual couples comprehend the divine nature of sexuality between them does not alter the fact that they are nearer to where all created beings need to go at one time.

The fact that heterosexual problems exist as well as homosexual ones does not alter this fact either. You should beware of comparing self with others in a measuring and judging, “He is better, I am better, one is more developed than the other, etcetera.” This is always impossible and misleading.

For what one individual may have gained in his or her evolutionary journey, he may yet have to learn in other ways, as compared to others who may be opposite in regard to what has been accomplished and what remains to be accomplished.

Some time in the not too distant future I shall speak again about the spiritual meaning of marriage, about New Age marriage [Lecture #251 The Evolution and Spiritual Meaning of Marriage – New Age Marriage], about certain stages of evolution in this regard. Here I say to you that it would be desirable for all those who can only experience physical intimacy with one from the same sex, to leave promiscuity behind and at least attempt to combine affection with sexuality, to whatever degree this may be possible.

It is not true that promiscuity and a flip attitude about intimacy has no effect on self and the other person involved. It does have an effect, and I ask you all not to interpret these words as if they were uttered with moralization and judgmentalness. They are advice given in love and in truth.

Now, what exactly is the soul problem in regard to homosexuality? I have said much about this in the past. Let me just sum up here that it is never just one single cause. Every ingrained problem must be a result of a combination of circumstances. We cannot possibly go into all the various combinations here. Suffice it to say that it is always a karmic residue that goes back usually several incarnations.

If it were not, it could be overcome with ease and speed. Anything that is ingrained and difficult to change is of longer standing. Therefore, the child is born into circumstances and to parents that make the appearance of this condition possible. This is referred to as the psychological factors which are believed to be the cause, rather than yet another layer of effects.

The underlying common denominator is always a separation from the opposite sex due to fear, hate, distrust, on the one hand, and over-identification with the opposite sex, on the other. Along with that goes a longing for contact with the same sex, and a strong denial of the longing for contact with the opposite sex.

These inner attitudes need to be changed, even if gradually. To begin with, these currents must become more conscious and less diffuse, so that eventually a real fusion between the sexes can take place. Out of this fusion between two individuals of the opposite sex, eventually fusion with the all can come about.

There is another spiritual law that is important to understand. It applies to this question as well as to many others. Important as it is to visualize a more perfected model regarding any life attitude, it must also be kept in mind that if the person attempts to forcefully live up to such a model of behavior, without having developed into this state organically, it is more harmful than when the more perfected attitude is not even perceived.

Let us apply this to homosexuality. If your knowledge of what I say here makes you self-rejecting, guilty and hopeless – if you try to force to be what you cannot yet be – you harm yourself. Yet, it is important to also be aware of truth and reality in a higher way of being. So it all depends on how you approach such knowledge.

It must always be combined with realistic self-acceptance and the understanding that involuntary processes give way indirectly. They appear as a natural by-product of your work to face every aspect of your being, all levels of your consciousness, with kindness, acceptance and love, with the knowledge that you are an expression of God and attempt, through such a path, to bring God into your material manifestation.

With that attitude, knowing cosmic truths about earthly matters, spiritual meanings about physical manifestations – such as sexuality, for example – will become an encouraging outlook that you can gradually grow into. In fact, you will know that one day, perhaps not in this life, you will become an expression of this spiritual meaning on Earth.

There is yet another aspect about your question. Creation is shaped in such a marvelous way that whatever distortions exist, in the process of working them out and transforming them back into their original way, even the distortion itself can become useful to the entire process of evolution, of the divine plan.

So, for example, some years ago I explained that the drug problem in your era is an expression of souls with certain defects, distortions and misplaced needs that are being fulfilled in a destructive way. At the same time, in the process of coming to the truth of the inner meaning of this problem of all the individual souls who fall into this category, the Spirit World makes very positive use of the distortion. The taking of drugs has opened spiritual doors to a great number of souls who would otherwise have remained totally cut off and dead to all inner levels of reality, to all spiritual aspects of life.

I do not want to be misinterpreted here. No one should believe that this means that taking drugs was recommended, for there is surely a much better way to opening these doors. However, as long as the conditions existed in these souls as they were, a large influx of spiritual reality – no matter how it was gained – came into a very materialistic world, into very separated consciousness.

Similarly, the souls who have not yet found liberation from their disturbed feelings in regard to the opposite sex were incarnated in greater number than ever before, all in one sweep, as it were, in order to fulfill a task through their very distortion.

It is necessary in your world, at this time, to keep down the number of births. If all these souls were heterosexual, many more births would occur than the Earth can accommodate now. I do not speak about the physical aspects of this accommodation that is very well known to your scientists. Rather, I say that these physical conditions that make more births dangerous for the whole of mankind are a result of the spiritual conditions behind the material ones.

The Plan of Salvation requires that the souls who now reach your Earth sphere are deeply wanted by spiritually highly developed parents who are aware of the deep meaning of such a task. This means spiritual, emotional and mental maturity of a heretofore unprecedented quality.

You prepare the way for such births by your Pathwork, often indirectly, through new educational approaches and new values that can be given on to prospective parents. When sexuality is entered into with entirely different attitudes and motives than previously, parenthood will also be approached and motivated by entirely different means.

This will make room for much more highly evolved souls to enter this realm, so that evolution can take its course. For this, the doors must be closed for less-developed souls, who will find a training ground in other spheres. When the doors for higher-developed souls will be open and the ground prepared, you will suddenly see that there will be enough food, air, space for everyone. For these commodities adjust themselves flexibly to the spiritual needs of the great plan.

The answer to your question went apparently far afield, but is really very relevant. For there is no point in answering it only on more superficial levels. I ask all of you who are at all interested in this topic, who are affected by it, to study my answer deeply and attempt to understand it on the deepest level possible.

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